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an ordinary housewife, a child growing up, summed up the lucky 20 tips for children, and write a book. Today, her children from the world famous university after graduating from UCL, has been in fierce competition, the world's largest bank UBS to become a member. As parents, you are master of these tips? Now these 20 tips designed to question the same time, you can try to beat their own score, if the
1, tolerant and inclusive child
warm even if the child made a mistake, but also with a forgiving heart to forgive him, with his warm words of tolerance. Convinced that the recognition of child and love their parents only when self-confidence, luck will germinate.
2, has a philosophy of education with the belief
afraid of children left behind, forced children to learn not want to learn the knowledge, would undermine the child's will. Find ways for children's education the most important, we must stick to it found.
3, to help children have a dream
parents to help children have a specific vision of the future. Children have a dream, a dream to guide them to believe that this can be realized, such action would be to give children a positive self-development
4, trust children
whether the kind of dream children, parents encourage children to continue the process, the child will be surrounded by the growth of good luck.
5, guide the child has a specific dream
have a dream, this dream to help them have a specific outline, this dream inspired him to focus on specific actions. Do not give the impression of forcing their children to leave.
6,
The reorganization of central enterprises the oppo, parents are learning auxiliary
luck if you want the child, the mother must first set an example. Reading with your child, with shared experiences with their children.
7, patience is the most basic content
Do not nag your child to do this do that, for children to create self-changing environment, happily waiting for his change. Occasionally, some children even if things are not favored may also wish to let his time.
8, do those words to convey blessings to the children
parents convey to become a blessing. Accept the Opportunities and luck are often linked.
9, give children
travel destination travel is a very good education. Children to develop self-reliance through travel ability, patience and spirit of challenge.
10, let the children make independent judgments
front face of the children to be independent is to determine the best training. Even if not believe, but also recognized the child's own decisions and encourage them.
11, know how to enjoy people who can successfully
be painful to realize their dreams, to find joy from the pain. The key to success lies in how to enjoy and endure difficult process.
12, training them to prioritize action to set the order of the method
ability to judge in training. Who began giving their children to play or study.
13, to encourage more important than the recognition of children
anything done in recognition of just evaluating the results, but encouraged to increase the child will do things better.
14, let the children embrace the failed
If you have the best efforts, even if the failure, but also let the child met.
15, the courage to pick up the pen
pen in a letter to say to the children tell him, either letters or e-mail does not matter.
16, the suffering of children to bear children
pain, we want to help their parents feel the same. However, the parents can not take the place of children their lives way. Tell your child alone in life decisions.
17, eye opening
lofty ideals, so that children grow through the dream alone, in the broad process of growth will be able to seize the world the best of luck.
18, not to dream of their parents impose child
not be confused with greed and dreams of their parents. Do not forget the children of parents who dream of supporting.
19, to cultivate children's social
by the power of one person, must not achieve happiness and success. Lack of social success the child can neither nor happiness.
20, sometimes for the purpose of the child to fail even if the child failed
challenges, but also told them that this is just mistakes, not failure, the child will fail to further develop through their own vision.
Section 1: Introduction ... 1
Section 2: learn how to correctly look at the child did not listen ... 2
Section 3: lower profile, listen to children's voices ... 4
Section 4: trust kids, do the child's close friends (1) 6
Section 5: trust kids, do the child's close friends (2) 7
Section 6: standing on the child's point of view ... 8
Section 7: Respect for the child, the child was being taken seriously ... 9
Section 8: ease child, do not force children to ... 11
Section 9: right to let go, let the children do things ... 13
Section 10: Children appreciate the efforts and hard work ... 15
Section 11: the right to be treated
Section 12: the right to be treated
Section 13: the right to be treated
Section 14: the right to be treated
Section 15: the right to be treated
Section 16: set a good example for children (1) 23
Section 17: set a good example for the children (2) 25
Section 18: children do not listen, reflect on yourself first ... 26
Section 19: do not listen to reason from the child found on measures ... 27
Section 21: Do not yield to the child's unreasonable demands (1) 30
Section 22: Do not yield to the child's unreasonable demands (2) 31
Section 23: Children do not accuse the authority of the tone ... 32
Section 1: Introduction
parents may have profound understanding of each child and they often go against a little unhappy to blow often, parents often get dizzy brain child toss up, could do nothing. Disobedient child, the parents became a common disease, how do we educate disobedient child?
every parents hope he can establish credibility in front of children, want to say it, an order, where children can play. However, many children just do not give parents the face, or crying, or talking back, or hear criticism stubborn stormed out.
Thus, in the eyes of their parents, Disobedient child, the parents became the largest piece of heart disease.
the face of However, these measures often backfire, and more to stimulate the child's rebellious, disobedient.
how it really obedient child education has become a common problem faced by many parents.
for disobedient children, education experts told parents: in this world, not disobedient children, only parents who can not speak; there are no bad children, only unqualified parents.
disobedient child is not? Children are not antagonistic? Not responsible for the child, but entirely in the parents. Is whether the parents followed the growth of the child's nature and psychology, is whether parents have the educational philosophy of science, is whether parents tutor to master the scientific method.
If parents know how to respect the child's nature, to appreciate the advantages and strengths of children, give them enough understanding and love, to lay down the authority of parents and children an equal exchange, patience to guide their children, patience to help the child, then, will be able to effectively educate and change the disobedient child.
children do not toe the line, must be a reason. The face of disobedient children, to find its causes, which do not distinguish what tube to tube, know what way to manage, is a profound knowledge, parents go to long-term learning and research.
to help parents correctly understand the behavior of disobedient children, using the right way to communicate with their children, we organize the domestic first-line special education experts compiled the book.
book analyzing a large number of case studies based on the combination of daily tutoring in the actual case, a profound analysis of the reasons children do not listen to the child disobedient behavior conducted in-depth perspective, for parents to react to disobedient child behavior, a variety of practical and effective measures and techniques.
the same time, the book also tells parents: blindly obedient to require that children may not be a good thing; Similarly, the children As parents, if you always want the child to listen to their own words, this
book of science tutor tutoring concept through a specific method among the papers presented on the dialectical view of parents to the child's correct the child does not obey their parents specific behaviors. The book highlights practical and operational, is a lifting of heart disease for the majority of parents, children brought joy to tutor reading, the majority of parents hope it will help teach the child talent.
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Section 2: learn how to correctly look at the child's disobedience
disobedient behavior of the face of the child, parents should first of all to maintain calm; correct the child's disobedient behavior, parents should first correct understanding of this phenomenon.
disobedient children should be how to treat behavior? Disobedient child is not completely wrong with that? It is not. Children if the parents do not listen carefully analyze the pros and cons, a look at this issue is divided into two, you will find: children do not listen to act has two sides, both the negative side, it has a positive side.
us look at the kids do not listen to the negative side.
great disobedient child negativity, it is the biggest negative impact will lead to poor children to develop personality, mental or habits. If all the Serious, self-interest will breed out bad quality.
easy to develop self-centered character of the bad boy is a most remarkable characteristic, that do not respect their parents. They consider the issue, only the premise of their own feelings, never mind how to take into account the parents. If parents do not listen to accommodate them, or turn a blind eye to the practice, over time, children will develop self-centered everything bad character, that is, only consider their own ideas, regardless of way of thinking and feelings of others, and gradually freeze as a habits. In this way, for their healthy growth and development are very harmful.
easy to develop bad character of selfish parents if a child with advice, teachings are not listening, then the opinions of others can he accept? Long-term case, the child will only consider their own interests, everything did not want other people to develop self-serving character.
will lead to decreased performance, learning landslide every parents want their children learning hard in hard and achieve good results. Disobedient children, but parents do not care and thought in mind and when they do not look at the reading, do not do the homework. As long as there is an opportunity, not the Internet, that is star-chasing, never taking learning seriously. Therefore, the most disobedient children will result in decreased learning, learning slide.
make bad partners will lead to the child with people, make friends, this is normal behavior in the growth process. Because parents are worried about the youngsters, with little experience and do not understand the difference between good friend and the evil friends, often will tell the child should make clear what kind of friends, what kind of friends should not cross. But the boy is often not reasonable that a set of parents, just by their feelings to their friends, resulting in its turn in some bad friends. In these bad influence of friends, they strayed into his life will be wrong.
parents see their children do not listen to the negative side, it should be noted that children do not listen to the positive side. Only correct view of the child's disobedient behavior, parents can better and more effectively shoulder the important task of educating the children.
disobedient children, but also have the following positive aspects: disobedient child has the courage and will power many European and American countries, a study on the education of children, naughty, good resistance, disobedient children, often have strong courage and willpower . Because of the courage and strong will power, children are more firm stand, to decide things in their own discretion.
Investigation German psychologist Heather has 100 strong resistance against the awareness and consciousness of children without behavior. Traced to adolescence, found that the children against the strong growth of 85% as strong-willed, with a deep sense of young people; no awareness of the child against the will power to develop into strong,
Ice space open!, only 24%, most of which rely on non-judgment others who survive.
disobedient children are often creative and sometimes disobedient behavior of the child, in fact, Caused by The unrestrained and abstract thinking, creativity is an important starting point for human development. One early childhood education experts to foreign countries to visit and see a young child with blue strokes of a Children delighted. At this time Chinese experts asked her mother: tolerate child Children see the world is unique, their imagination is rich, if the parents with the adult way of thinking on their gross interference, it will stifle their imagination and creativity. Therefore, parents give children a little
creation will take some time and space. If the child was tightly restricted, and that freedom is not, how can they go to create? Parents should give children more time and space, let them go,
Thus, children do not listen to has its positive side, as parents, should adopt a positive attitude to look at the child's disobedient behavior, give full play to the positive factors. If you impose the right guidance and proper educational methods used to enable the advantages of disobedient children be maintained and more flash, thereby enabling children to develop as an independent, confident, strong person, and thus able to adapt to intense social competition.
In short, education is not obedient children to pay attention to two issues: on the one hand the behavior of children do not listen to the negative factors, firm can not turn a blind eye, laissez-faire; but we also need to protect their positive factors, do not force the child, killing the child's personality.
correct view of the child's disobedient behavior, figure out a good
Section 3: lower profile, to listen to the voices of children
Many parents experience
disobedient children, complain when the city shook his head: Children in the end in mind? Why did he not tell me? In fact, you want to open the door of the child to explore the inner world of children, parents must put your profile to listen to children's voices.
patiently listen to children tell, let the children feel the love and warmth, and thus more close to their parents with respect, which is conducive to the child to tell their parents their own ideas will help parents to their disobedient behavior defined educational and guidance.
Although many parents and children from morning till evening, but then they do not understand. Children do not understand the idea, it is difficult to effectively deal with disobedient children's behavior. To correct the child's parents do not listen in on the act to obtain good results, first of all have to close the child, to gain his confidence, into his heart. On a sultry afternoon, Luo Zaiqiong sweaty to bike struggled in road traffic flow. Daughter sat Luo Ziqiong the car, and talking to her at odds with the students in the class thing, tired tired, tired of heart is no response, she listened.
Gradually, her voice weak down. Suddenly, she whispered: reluctantly took the children to return stationery store, the daughter unexpectedly jumped Qi Gugu to his car, said bitterly:
one enter the house, Luo Zaiqiong rushed in front of her daughter asked her why she did not listen. Daughter tearfully looked at her, said: Her daughter's little face flushed, choked: If the child's heart for a long time to Luo Zaiqiong can not calm down.
Thereafter, Luo Zaiqiong began consciously to set aside a piece of his mind of space, it is satisfied that the child's emotions to Sheng. She knew not only be concerned about the children in learning and life, but it should be careful to appreciate the child's heart a desire to be understood.
Since then, communication between her and the children more closely, the generation gap in the wall of their body has gradually disappeared, her daughter's not obedient behavior gradually disappeared. Parents want the earnest expectation, the lack of communication between brothers and sisters of the family, the heavy pressure of study ... ... children too need to mind communication. Many parents often overlook this point, and only their children's learning, only care about test scores, did not know it would hurt a child's psychological health. Therefore, many children will become reluctant to talk with their parents, become disobedient. In this environment children grow up, how their parents Heart does not divide it? How will not produce disobedient behavior?
education experts point out that: the elimination of the child's disobedient behavior, is to continually eliminate misunderstandings between the child process. Listen to children between the lines of discourse can enhance communication and promote understanding. A child is a world. Parents should learn to listen, listen to their words, listen to them, listen to their understanding of the world and dreams for the future. The only way to better the child's soul into.
So how should parents
adopts a lower profile, to listen to children feeling?
respect for the child to tell all the feelings of the child, parents should be quiet, listening intently, but does not give evaluation. Parents can not accept the child's disobedient behavior, but have to accept and respect the child's feelings. For example, he can tell the parents how angry he was junior partner, but the parents can not allow him to ridicule or hit by express his anger.
show that you are listening to him to the children concerned parents encourage the child's parents to express their thoughts and feelings. Parents should stop doing things, turned to him, maintain eye contact and listen carefully. While also used from time to time by nodding or
tell them what you think from time to time to summarize, restate, or repeat the key elements of the child has said, including his feelings and the feelings have led to the scene of the reasons for this. Just listen and understand is not enough, parents will also have to use the language of what he says, think and respond to the sense of things. But try not to repeat verbatim the words of a child, you should use similar language to express the same meaning.
children learn to listen to the words most people are used to speak, are not used to listen to, especially for parents faced with children, it is in full flight, asked him to be Do not listen to children say, how to know what he was thinking? Said the child did not listen, how to understand him, discipline him?
Therefore, parents want to have an obedient child, we must first To develop the habit of listening to children is not very difficult to talk, just tell yourself
encouragement, reasoning instead of criticizing the long-criticizing child,
121 - Qzone log, the child will be to for some time. Because a long time, he and his parents, poor communication, simply,
the face of disobedient children, parents, only the lower profile, in order to establish good communication and children; the face of disobedient children, their parents into their hearts only to find the crux of the disobedient.
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