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Reprinted from 479870668 at 15:05 on December 23 2010 Reading (loading. ..) Comments (0) Category: Incentive Quotations
one secret of success
1. Success = IQ (intelligence quotient) + EQ (emotional quotient)
IQ (intelligence quotient): learning ability, degree of smart
EQ (emotional intelligence): perceived ability (understanding), tenacity, affinity, control force (AQ), self-control
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2. There are four people in the world: the foreign side, cylindrical inner circle, foreign inner circle, outer circle within the square
circle: adaptation, adaptation (strain)
side: the principle of faith ,
天一的天夏 - Qzone日志, values
said he wanted to say,
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3. Success depends on three aspects
(1) self-expectations
A your expectations of others: children, Parents
B on your expectations of others: children, parents, spouse (who must have a sense of responsibility)
C your own expectations: Are you prepared to pay for their own success at what cost?
(2) self-image
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(3) self-image \
Second,
写给 R Y Y - Qzone日志, the communication model
ring do not love you when all the time, you have to love yourself!
Starting today, love yourself.
guiding skills -> Emotions -> self-image (like from the heart) -> Boot skills
Third,
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1. Self-image = self-worth
2. change the self-image
(1) to accept yourself, love yourself, even if they have no time to look down upon defective
I own!
not overbearing domineering, self-confidence rather than low self-esteem, ego rather than pride.
(2) grateful heart: like to thank the people around
upbringing, to thank friends, partners, thanks to the enemy, who does not accept your form, do not forget
proud and disappointments, not deformed
adjust the self-image
(3) self-suggestion: self-motivation,
还记得你跟同桌说的这些话么 - Qzone日志, self-communication (alone, quiet self-communication)
A I come from? B I go?
C What am I doing? D What can I do?
3. to challenge themselves and the comfort zone
(1) take the initiative to break the stereotype of interpersonal
place to drill
strangers greet the corridor, on the bus to break the stereotype of interpersonal
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(2) life only one thing: sell yourself,
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make you the person will be your future!
Fourth, to deal effectively with the emotional communication and defense
1. to establish trust
(1) trust you
(2) emotional account
how to build trust:
A bare win the affinity (self opening): the first bare themselves, can create
B trust the authority of life experience to obtain confidence: experience, experience (learning to leveraging and become a master of leveraging)
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A open area: You know, others hidden area that
B: You know, blind people do not know
C District: you do not know, people know
D unknown area: You do not know, people do not know (learn arouse curiosity)
communicate with the master is a master of inquiry.
only strange friends, no stranger to the offer.
successful three characteristics: ambitious, restless, curious.
2. other emotional
(1) Do not deny each other
(2) learn to use neutral language: the derogatory words into neutral words (there must be communication arts)
( 3) 3F communication
F: feel that to understand his / her feelings
F: Experience an example of other people have similar experience
F: discovery that will never happen to find solutions to disputes
! Argument would \
(4) asked to repeat with feeling (put yourself)
(5) Buffering: Your question is great, I have never met! But I assure you, I will find my mentor to help you solve.
(6) praise and criticism is a virtue
praise, criticism is an art.
PYLL every person, see things their value.
praise is the passport.
praise the sun (Aristotle)
criticism:
A criticism of the best in private;
B in a timely manner,
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C face;
D not with others comparison;
E is not settling old scores;
F is not critical personality;
G is not critical ability;
H euphemism;
I \> J \Well, not to mention the other side is ready
C, pay attention to posture
D speak the best policy: let the other party that you want to say (question)
five guiding communication skills 1. match each other mood, tone, body, imitating
2. by asking the other side often say \
B will never let the other side feel that you are helping him / her
C never let the other side feeling that it was his / her own decisions
D is always to ask the other side will always start
E experience relationships beyond their expectations
golden rule: how you want others to treat you, how you treat others
relationships Platinum Rule: treat others how you want him / her, how you treat him / her