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However, I don't think reasoning with an unreasonable 5-year-old who is threatening not to love you or talk to you unless you buy him the whim of the moment is the right way to go, either. This child needed some firm comments from his father, <a href="http://newerahatstock.com/coogi-hat-c-11.html"><strong>coogi hat</strong></a> such as, "Stop your begging, you're not getting this toy, and you're not to threaten me, either. You are not going to get this toy at this time, and we are leaving this store -- now!" The entire point of setting limits is to prepare our children for the world they will live in. If they do not get discipline from their parents who love and care for them the most, then they will get it from far harsher people in the world that they will have to learn to navigate, and that could prove to be a very unpleasant experience. Setting limits in a strong and effective way is loving your children, and on a certain level, your kids know that, too. They realize that parents who care enough about them to stand up to them and set limits are mature adults doing their parental job: providing love, care and preparation for the adult world that their children will one day enter. Parents who do give love along with limits are preparing their kids for life and the real world, which, at times, is not always so loving or easy. As parents, our job is to prepare our kids to live successfully in their personal world as well as in the outside world, which comes complete with rules, regulations and imperfections. And this training begins with us as parents. Follow Robi Ludwig on Twitter: www.twitter.com/drrobiludwig

Web configuration file web.config is a Web application's data configuration file, which is an XML file that contains settings related to Web application XML tags can be used to simplify the application of related equipment ASP.NET set.
11.7.1 Web based configuration file
Web configuration file web.config in the Web application in any directory, subdirectory if no web.config file, is to inherit the parent directory web.config settings related documents; if there is a subdirectory web.config file to parent directory web.config file override the relevant settings.
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the root of the Web configuration file marks are , his son mark , and is the configuration section. In the settings section under are ASP. NET related settings. Commonly used configuration section tag that is shown in Table 11-9.
Table 11-9 Common Settings section
tag

configuration section

Description

;

control anonymous user Web application, details refer to Chapter 16



set the ASP.NET authentication, see Chapter 13



set ASP.NET user authorization, see Chapter 13



Set up browsing program compatible components HttpBrowserCapabilities


Set compilation mode ASP.NET applications



ASP.NET application to set custom error handling


ASP.NET applications on the global setting, which is localized Set



set HTTP handling corresponds to the URL request is IHttpHandler class



Create, delete, or clear the ASP.NET application's HTTP module



ASP.NET the HTTP implementation of the relevant settings



set the ASP.NET application's user identification is to use server-side user account privileges (impersonate attribute), or the specified user account (userName and password attributes)



set to form the basis of authentication using the Cookie data, and decoding for coded key value


set the ASP.NET Membership mechanism, see Chapter 13




ASP.NET process to set the relevant settings, that is, the properties of the command Page Guidelines




set personal information Porfile objects, details refer to Chapter 14



set the ASP.NET role management, details see Chapter 13



Set Session State ASP.NET application HttpModule
(Continued)

configuration section

Description



set the ASP.NET site navigation system, details refer to Chapter 12



ASP.NET debugging applications, you can Set whether the tracing application execution


Set ASP.NET Web application components, details refer to Chapter 18



set the ASP.NET Web service, details refer to Chapter 18
11.7.2 appSetting with the connectionStrings section of the connection string parameters and
in the Web section of the configuration file program you can create ASP.NET required parameters, ASP.NET 2.0 Add section, you can specify the database connection string.
1. Web web.config configuration file contents
tag in the web.config file
child tag and section, you can create parameters and database connection string, as shown below.






... ... ...


the sub-tag tag is to create arguments, each tag can create a parameter , property key is the parameter name, value is the parameter value.
tag in the sub-tag can also create connection string attribute name is the name, connectionString property is the connection string content.
2. Conifguration API based
ASP.NET 2.0 Configuration API can access the web.config and machine.config configuration file to set data. In the ASP.NET program is to use the name space System.Web.Configuration WebConfigurationManager class to access the settings. First , import the required namespace, as follows.
<% @ Import NameSpace = \
the Import command to import System.Web.Configuration namespace, and then they can get the parameters created section, as shown below.
Dim dbType As String = WebConfigurationManager.AppSettings (\ Use the above code
AppSettings property to get the specified parameters, using the key attribute tag. Section can also obtain the database connection string, as shown below.
Dim pd, db As String
pd = WebConfigurationManager.ConnectionStrings (_
\
db = WebConfigurationManager.ConnectionStrings (_
\
use the ConnectionStrings property to access the program code provider and the database parameter value, that tag name attribute. ASP.NET sample is a complete program Ch11-7-2.aspx, the table shows the performance results using the data table records, as shown in Figure 11-12.

Figure 11-12 Ch11-7-2.aspx operating results
Access Database on the map is a section of the application parameters, data tables is to use the GridView control to display record data, the database connection string is defined in the web.config file.
11.7.3 Session state settings in the sessionState section
ASP.NET Session state management with the scalability, you can set the web.config file Session state management section, it belongs to sub-tags, as shown below.


<sessionState cookieless = \
... ... ...


common property of the tag as shown in Table 11-10.
Table 11-10
common attribute tag

attribute

Description

mode

Session state is stored in the location can be off (not stored), InProc (with Cookie), StateServer (using the state server) and SqlServer (stored in SQL Server)

cookieless

whether to use the Cookie store Session state. True is not in use, False to use

timeout

Session time limit, in minutes, default is 20 minutes, and its function as the Session object of the TimeOut property
11.7.4 globalization section of the code set
subtags in localization of the relevant section is set, you can set the default file encoding ASP.NET program, request and response encoding, date and time formats, and digital and other localization settings as shown below.


<globalization
fileEncoding = \
requestEncoding = \
responseEncoding = \
culture = \
... ... ...


the tag property is set encoding gb2312, culture is a localized setting, zh-CN for the Chinese mainland. Related properties described in Table 11-11 below.
Table 11-11 globalization section
related properties

attribute

Description

requestEncoding

Request request encoding specified, the default is UTF-8 encoding, most of the coding requestEncoding and responseEncoding property should be the same

responseEncoding
Response response
encoding specified, the default is UTF-8 encoding

fileEncoding

specified extension. aspx,. asmx and. asax file default encoding

culture

specify the localization of language areas, different regions have different date and time format, number and so the default localization settings
property value on the table you can use the language culture and the area code, is a culture in Chinese language attribute values shown in Table 11-12.
Table 11-12 culture
property values can use the language and area code

culture attribute value

language or region

zh-HK
Hong Kong

zh-MO

Macau

zh-CN

China

zh -SG

Singapore

zh-TW

Taiwan

zh-CHS

Chinese Simplified
zh-CHT

Chinese Traditional
11.7.5 compilation compiled section setting
marked in sub-section , you can set the default ASP.NET process compilation mode, as shown below.


<compilation defaultLanguage = \
... ... ...


the tag property is set to open the default program language, and whether the debug mode. Related properties described in Table 11-13 below.
Table 11-13 compilation section
related properties

attribute

Description

debug

is turned on debug mode, do not open by default False, True to open

defaultLanguage

default programming language, such as C #, VB or PERL the default is VB

explicit
Microsoft Visual Basic is compiled using the explicit, that is, all variables declared in advance are required, the default value is True
used in the web.config file compilation marking, as the beginning of the program files with ASP.NET Page Language and Debug command properties, as shown below.
<% @ Page Language = \ 11.7.6 customErrors custom error page section
child tag in section, you can set the ASP.NET custom error page program. For example, the error code HTTP 404, as shown in Figure 11-13.

Figure 11-13 displays an error message
the above error message is the default error page, the data shows page not found error. Section can be specified in the error page as shown below.


<customErrors mode = \
... ... ...


The tag property is set
mode On. Related properties described in Table 11-14 below.
Table 11-14 customErrors section
related properties

attribute

Description

mode

whether to start a custom error function, On the custom error handling for the start, then need to specify the defaultRedirect property, Off for the abolition of the custom error handling, RemoteOnly specify a custom error handling is only displayed on the remote client end, the local computer still shows the default ASP . NET error page, this is the default value

defaultRedirect

specified URL address, when an error is generated to redirect the page to this site, this example is shown Ch11-7error. htm page
customErrors section have more than one error in the sub-tags, each tag could error HTTP error codes defined custom error page as shown below.






use of the above error statusCode attribute tag specifies HTTP error code 404, if the error occurs, to redirect to redirect property value NotFoundError.htm page.