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Reprinted from 191490805 at 8:33 on October 31 2010 read (loading. ..) Comments (0) Category: Psychological inquire
text / tea Zi Yan
yoga when a young girl asked me not fallen in love before the age of 27, what is psychological problems, she knew I was doing counseling work of Beijing Normal University. State of that environment and I can not ask her more, she did not tell me I'm afraid to say too much. So I can only say that this is not fallen in love are you? You think this is the problem? She readily admits her. But she did not think this is what psychological problems, but the people around her, including her parents say she Mental illness. To the point that old age is also not in a hurry to find the object, we say that she married the love.
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young girl such a question like the above fact, I have encountered many. Here in general to summarize this problem, and then say that this is not a problem.
Xiao Xing is a young man is 29 years old this year, but also time in the past has not really been in love, even the girl's hands are not pulled. He said he told female students to speak and present female colleagues would never blush, never dared to face them. Almost certainly not one with the female contacts, including mother and the level of some of the older women,
鼓起信心 - Qzone日志, he would speak stammer, stutter badly. To this end, his mother took him several hospitals visited, but went to have little effect. Finally, a hospital doctor advised him to seek psychological counseling to help and told him it was a psychological barrier.
Xiaoxing is indeed the problem can be more obvious psychological problems, generally, he has a social disorder, if the specific point that his problem is probably due to his understanding of the cognitive process produced a biased or suffered some adverse effects caused. He did not communicate with other such serious stuttering phenomenon, only the face in front of the opposite ######. He is almost afraid of the female face to face with their peers. In addition, he can not communicate with the women look at each other, and this is some of his psychological terror caused by forcing issues of thinking.
Qiumei keep the situation is quite similar to the young girl mentioned above. She is also very good personal terms, from school to work have always suitors, but they can not get along. Finally, the last two years led to Qiumei want to avoid the issue of marriage, are not close friends with any of the opposite ######. When they are good students, good colleagues and good friends are into, that they can not take them as love objects. Once her boyfriend into a qualitatively opposite ######, then certainly before long their relationship will collapse.
can broadly be friends, you can not close friends into a love relationship between men and women. This was seen as the psychological aspects of an intimate relationship in question. Most of this problem stems from the parties themselves intimate relationship with their parents,
new balance running shoes, there are problems. Parents is one of the most important intimate relationships, this person an adult to establish close relationships with the models are mostly learned to get along with his parents between the models. Only want to love and be loved is any connection with them (parents) a sense of great distance, so that they are always a state of conflict. Qiumei past two years, are trying to avoid the issue of marriage, this avoidance is a psychological fear itself. Avoidance does not mean she does not want to be loved, do not want the feeling of love, then the inner thoughts are the same, try to avoid letting her sense the reality, showing the other way, so that people's living conditions would be contradictory and painful. Those who make a person able to do so is not up coordination within and outside the mind can imagine the inner world of this man how the impoverished and alone. At the same time distressed persons in this category there are some problems with the above-mentioned Xiaoxing, a lot of complex intertwined within the heart, such as on the nature of the marital relationship is one of cognitive problems, and so invisible within the heart barricades and blocking the feelings of these people pursue happiness the way, can stop the people who want to love them close to them.
Another female friend, Let us now call her Xiao Wei, a typical good girl this year, already 28 years old. Although the parents arranged for the past two years at a few boyfriends,
Harassment night too .. classic `Hey a call record, but without success. Recently a particularly keen awareness of a colleague introduced her than she is 5 years old, married once from the 4-year-old child and a man. Xiaowei know the man's existing conditions so that their parents know if, and certainly not the results, so she wanted to try to look at, of course, in order not to reject his enthusiastic colleagues. Along a few days, the men know that she really never been in love before the first proposed to break up with her. She puzzled, he is divorced, and children, which I also own contradictory thought good, my parents did not know, how was he who first broke it it? Xiao Wei has lost and can not be reconciled at the same time she began to have their own ideas.
In fact, this is simple. 27,8's Xiaowei as for not fallen in love before, and not what is not, but is always also the little reasons. For example,
new balance shoes, some has been very well-behaved obedient child if this character has been formed, until he has still not grown up by their own awareness and change, still maintained his toe dependent on their parents, still do not know their own minds and their capabilities, so that well-behaved children in a class of some of the more mature and realistic person's eyes, I am afraid is the problem. Such as the divorced man, he exchanges a few days perhaps with Xiaowei found her problem, Xiaowei live in their own fairy tale world,
new balance sneakers, always rely on the arrangements for their parents, they can do little things stand, the last even their marriage to help introduce the object must be others, so her social skills and life skills is what level, then how can such a good girl to assume a family has a responsibility to raise and educate children do. In fact, another point of view to deal with things like this man really is Xiaowei lucky, but Xiaowei do not think so. She believes that the men with him to disdain her, then she may really have any serious problems, she will have love and marriage? More do not know of her, and also a loss of this world more, and this is how the people, it seems safest to follow my parents live.
Yang Fan
fifty-five feel one meter tall, dark skin, eyes and small,
孙子兵书之36计详解 - Qzone日记, home, and there is no background, their post-secondary education is still a working girl, she thought that she did not love them because they talked about various aspects of the conditions are very poor, no one will fall in love with her.
In fact, everyone is unique in the world. If you feel your not a princess, you can also consider those who do not have a prince on a white horse. Warrior riding a black horse okay it? Moreover, as long as you have a confident and a good attitude, the same fall in love with Prince Charming Cinderella. So,
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new new balance shoes, you even look down yourself, then it is difficult to love other people do you. This is their lack of awareness of their own, more over-the psychological problems caused by low self-esteem.
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sum up the situation to see if they indeed belong to social disorder problems, intimacy issues and dependent personality, severe inferiority complex, etc. (After all, their problems have not been focused on identification of the system in-depth consultation process, this is After the initial exchange, through the feeling) that is not fallen in love before the age of 27 caused by current anxiety and panic is love and marriage of mind, including the cold surface of the marriage, refusal, do not care about performance should be affected by a number of psychological problems. But not a serious problem even more frightening is the problem will have the answer, after careful adjustment to find and can be improved. Yoga sister used the same reason I can explore this question, although she was very casual look, but also that she has realized her problem was a problem,
new balance 574, which shows that she is mature enough, from the desire to achieve her solve the problem of love and marriage to her far away.
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