5-year struggle from the monthly salary 3500-70000

(I)Come to Shanghai for five years, the career has been a rapid leap, life has been a section of the bitterness. However, Looking back, it is these five years has finally become my distressed opportunities ahead, I can still have the living conditions of the present? 7 million worth, for some brothers who may be insignificant, but I think Most of my friends also may temporarily not reached this state --- not at all meant to brag, I know a lot of friends who are successful --- so much stronger than I would be interested in my experience, I decided to settle down a good point to write the text, I hope will not let friends down.
today have an idea of ​​my mind more clear, that is: Love, only love, a man of success is the best power, the most appropriate power. And certainly not their own vanity, or the so-called ambition. As a man, the first thing that you need to have your true love. ********* Excited as it will be like your ability, so you broke the infinite power, God will move for you. Such a state, that every people dream state.
friends, maybe you do not agree with me, let's not busy arguing, you look at my experience and see if it makes sense.
1, Shanghai
1999 years, I resigned just distribution of the work of state organs, from Xinjiang to Shanghai. I was proud of his success, that by virtue of their own strength and efforts will be able to gain a firm foothold in the big city, setting one of their own sky.
I was born in 1976 in Xinjiang, Xinjiang, sunshine and highland climate, so my body as straight as poplars, although not say handsome looks extraordinary, but also to the vast majority of people do not hate. I grew up learning can be said to be excellent, the University was admitted to a top 5 national key university, when the distribution is 98 years, afraid to work hard to find his father, must I go back to the Civil Servants to be a stable idle. I feel like I can experience that these people doing things to return to the Xinjiang Uygur Autonomous Region Government. After months of work, and colleagues in the sector fared very mature, drinking, boasting the ability to check Yan concept of color to improve quickly, but that it is grinding work of youth, waste of life, and decided to resign, go to Shanghai to look hard . Oh, now my students in Xinjiang also fared well. This is a different personality.
My major is economics and management, and was not sensible, since, as the high, to Shanghai I was stupid: Do not these people do business, they want people who have certain skills, and capable people who, like I did not do the actual work that people did not provide training opportunities. Classmates and friends have found a work-to lower, not I can be done, and watch the money slowly brought to bottom, which grew more and more urgent? Is this really comes into play I do not ?
3 months later, I finally found a temporary satisfaction to their work, but far from their professional. I am the person many interests, energy is also abundant in many areas the university adopted the materials, ideas are many, writing skills can be. Just move a planned advertising copy, I feel like I can do it, the results of a trial, the company the interviewer that although I have not done, but the ideas and skills is also good, say good reputation for graduate school,new era hats, to leave me - - I am still very grateful to the older generation who, after the work has proved his vision. Monthly salary of 3500, good, life issues being resolved.
soon I entered the working condition of life, and I feel very happy. 2 months later, a place I caught off guard, did not think this started, my life had such a big change.
2, after work I met
work very dedicated, very hard, I have done a month or two of 3 Case, clients and bosses bosses are more satisfied. I was an organ is just out of bent work hard working, two newspaper companies want to know the grace of employing people, doing something that is at work, and willing to learn humility, the other because of the experience through the organs, life on the road and generous, often ask my colleagues to eat and drink, they are also willing to help me, so get started soon become the backbone of the department. Now I still advise to the young friends, the work should be invested with the heart and soul to this input from the financial point of view to anyone who will not lose money. Oh, but that time deposits 0.
one day I go to work that morning drizzle, from the place where the company car to fight there, more people to the car, can not reach car. Just my turn to get on the bus, when a girl rushing from the roadside, has been the rain and outrageous hair, opened the back door to get on the car. I was about to exit back to ask her to get off the rain to see her as a girl to say so I said I really do not go out, she seems to have no way indeed, and looked at me and blushed. I smiled to her, back out.
next morning, we met in the same place. It was sunny, we are waiting for the bus, she saw me take the initiative to report to me with an apologetic smile, I pointed to Come bus smiled and said:
this way, we know.
3, love
she called Yun, from Hunan. She is not only the beauty of Hunan gentle sister, but also forceful and understanding woman in Hunan. She is also just arrived in Shanghai, in a trading company.
our rapid understanding, knowing each other, then love. Maybe love is still know each other before. I still can not quite understand, why the sudden love of the mess. Perhaps the arrival of a strange place, just out of the existential threat, maybe I used to work and has been laughing and joking, and suddenly there is a good girl there, and I have a real feeling disarmed.
because we live close together after work every day, Yun said the first time I hug her, she can not do without me, I appreciate her for her immense love. I love the energy I feel when the infinite, to accompany me every day to 23:12 Yun points, inspired and also go to the company to work overtime, during that time efficiency is also high. Friends say my eyes shining. We have not seen a day like every other Sanqiu. Look in her eyes I will forget the hunger, there are many times I touch my heart jumped back home, suddenly found himself hungry can not stand anymore, hehe.
Chongming once I went with the project, because the frequency of late, the ship stopped coming back, so to say she called back. We did a night pass more than 50 phones, is not she call me to play in the past. I am the next morning the ship, actually found in the terminal Yun --- my car have to know where to play 1 hour of the road, she said in tears all night a long time ago to wait for me. Together we cry, happy exception.
soon we both think the other is their own future families in the other half. To the end of the year, Yun said, let me go to her house to see her family. I was nervous, but very pleased, began to prepare gift. Oh, then we all love carried away, there is no saving ideas. Fortunately, my salary rose to 5500, she also has 2500, we have enough to spend.
not long, however, a message to my heart break into the eighth layer of hell.
4, bride price
end of the year, my gifts for almost, probably spent a total of more than 4,000. More than six months, I have become the company's go-getters, the boss is also more optimistic about me. Because I have been in the northwest of character, generous but yet wise, never mind work overtime, benefits or something. More than the end of the boss made a lot of hand has bought 1 million gift, and feel that they have money, they simply did not expect the money.
this time one of her cousin's home came from her, saying it was to see. I think, largely because of her family let her not come to see my son in law's. She had said to me, her home city of her mother boss, everything matters. We dare not neglect, with her cousin in Shanghai, to have fun again. Finally, I feel she is quite satisfied with my cousin, my heart is down here.
to a few days before leaving, Yun suddenly told me that the door may be more formal, language, some evasive. I do not quite understand, and thought her mother might have been initially investigated by the bar. One day at a time when three of us, like her cousin jokingly said to her sister, you are so good condition, bride price can not have fewer ah! Aunt said, the Front Street of Old Lee family to be a man 80,000 girl does, we must not less than 15 million. Said also to see me.
God, I'm like a power play about, stunned. To be honest, I grew grew up in Xinjiang, culture is very open-minded, married man with 4 to give money in general, but 5 million is quite a lot, but also explain to the children. The concept of bride price when the contact is only reading novels, never imagined would one day into his head. Now her family say this, there is absolutely serious, the way words are so skillfully mastered. How can I do? Change the practice of marrying her mind? Save it! Why? I know the family foundation, must not reach out to the family. How do you cope? I smiled to see Yun and her cousin,red bull cap, Yun bit nervous, my heart could not bear the more.
how can I do? I go back again and again to think about it.
5, promises
3 days it is painful, I almost did not how to sleep. Yun also see, she carefully did not dare touch me. I was very hold back the fire: how to sell her daughter with her daughters married as confused? Sometimes I think blowing the calculations altogether, but the thought of us to be separated, and my heart like a knife as involuntary tears down. Home has been a poor family, his brother was in college, can not reach out to the family's; their wages? God, I now feel short of money, then only 1 million dollars on hand, this time to also prepare bleeding, say I'm saving money, but also to prepare for our wedding to buy a house ah, 15 million to her home, how will we do? . . .
Over the years, my own understanding, I like a style all their own. To 3 days, I have a way to set the heart. Yun sometimes look at me, know what to do? Her know my temper, his family and economic situation, but she knew she could not change her mother's idea, but the key is that she has little idea of ​​bride price should be given . I told her, do not worry, I have a solution.
soon, to her home, meet, and handed a gift and chat. . . Her mother, kind and smart, stable and loving father. Two days passed quickly, and we have to go, then the past should also come. The Last Supper, and her mother spoke: ) to set the marriage. When you see the courtesy to do it? you discuss the matter, but also discuss with your family, please? Yes, we're in the customs you may not know, I do not know Ah Yun ozuki to Did you speak. I'm scared to death. Yes ah, do not screw up the last paragraph. I smiled and assured her.

But I feel that since I work, I was earning a living, but I married Yun Ah, but you also think I am right, then the 15 million should be for me to give,GUCCI Sunglasses, rather than come to my house. Need 5 trade sales experience!
to have 15 million, and should prove to you, I have the ability to A Yunxing blessing.
We are also small (Ah Yun, 2 years younger than me), later marriage does not matter. Two years later, I will give 15 million, and will prove it to you, me and Ah Yun ability of well-being. happy, of course, is probably only superficial, but at least his mother acquiesced to my request. of course, since then, I felt a huge pressure in the mountains my heart, my life changed.
6, beginning
back to Shanghai after, my mood is not low, but a kind of war comes the calm and excited. I thought he was determined, for my love, my future happiness, I have to pay several times more than the efforts of others to realize my promise. I desire to do so wholeheartedly, and believe they will be successful.
Yun but was worried, she said to me or we moved in together, can save some lives, save her and me money. I turned her down. Although we already had intimate relations, but I do not want to let her family know that this is not good for her. And I do not want to let her save money, after all, I said, this is I do. I know a girl, living, clothing, cosmetics, etc., how to spend a month or so that have to 2000. I said, Yun this time I may not buy you a lot of clothes and cosmetics She nodded solemnly. I do not know if I would later regret this decision.
My initial idea is this: because I only worked for 7 months, and my salary has risen to 5500. If At this rate, my salary after six months at least to 8,000 years old, one year after the most incompetent and should to 10,000 or so. I can cook everything, and can develop into management, so I saved 70% of monthly salary , plus 2 years down the end of the year awards, will be enough. And, when even the 15 million are , and my heart is only one word: naive. developments indeed confirmed the sentence: The scheme in the face of reality is always useless.
7, failed
soon, reality gave me a heavy blow. a By chance, I chat up the boss, he told me that planning and creative professionals can quickly pay on the middle to win, but to reach 5 digits, only 2 years of work experience is highly unlikely. because the domestic business conditions not mature, the ability of customers is limited. all companies get customers willing to pay some costs, in the planning and creative on the 80% satisfaction on it. Moreover, companies are willing to paid to the business and management, one of only 2 years of work experience who basically do not have the personnel resources it needs, operation and management capabilities.
I understand the meaning of the boss. I started in the market for other companies. But let me down real soon, million to more than one year receive a monthly salary is impossible. good company, but said that 2 to 3 years, hopefully, if done well. God, my time is not enough! the same time, companies know looking for work outside of my things, bosses very happy because the company that has to be fair to say that I do not thin. tell the truth, this road a great possibility of success, but not enough time ah!
how to do?
I decided to resign.
8.
difficult since it has been proven that being the case, and then left to go is a waste of time. my time is running out. and I think that if he resigned, there are chunks of time able to reach out to more and deeper social, more appropriate opportunity. Ah Yun does not agree, she said it was too unstable. I could not get her, she did not convince me. This is something I still do, I know, only the most drastic.
before leaving a deep talk with the boss and asked him to forgive me. also part of my situation, told him. We had very good. boss is very sorry, I could also come back later work, I am reluctant to leave, but I have no escape route out.
I started roaming around on the beach in the experience of riding a bike around a broken switch in Shanghai, to find that a limited acquaintance, asked whether or not projects to do. I have around 10,002 thousand dollars, that it can support half a year. I think that six months if there are planning projects to do, I point to hard to do everything themselves, and should be able to earn a 2-30000, more than a few items to work better. Oh, if my friends who I had the same idea, and today I must advise you do not! hindsight, I am too confident too anxious, What should look for opportunities while working, the time is right do it again, otherwise 99% of the sea and drowned. I like to go through rain and wind, run 2 months, a list does not run, coupled with a lost bags, lost more than 1,000 yuan and mobile phones. accommodation, meals, transport spent 3500 dollars, only around 7,000 dollars already. But the point is not signs of a turnaround.
9, opportunity
At this time, a matter not believe, very good opportunity there. I find I am a former customer, said one of his friends over there in Jiading, Shanghai mayor of a town to do their town 3 months to do a the company and I worked, I feel I have the ability, and get the company to do the planning, the price to 8 million or more generally. us more space, and if done well planned book, activities, organization and production we have opportunities. I am very happy, understand that he himself would like to make some, and immediately gave him 2,000 yuan in commissions. do not know the habits did not affect me, now I think the opportunity that it must be to put in, not the most that's not seen rabbits not spread eagle.
sleepless nights I work more than 20 days, every night till 2 am, the manuscript changed 4 times. and then another 400 dollars posted its own produced three samples. AC to that friend, he is very appreciated, kept saying to do good, seems to have no problem making the back, and within a week I'm gonna take the money now. I put my heart sigh no white cast, quickly put Yun told the good news, she is very happy. After all, this is my first income ah! but still a lot of value.
10, cheated
I never expected, this looks good even the opportunity to actually run into a liar. The client program after I get, even disappeared! I could not wait a week later, this guy is no longer in touch with me life and death. I call, the phone has down, went to his former company to find him, the company said he had been do not do, and now in cooperation with a person start a company. I went to town of Jiading find that we've seen with the town of his long friend, the mayor said the project already signed up, he and I are friends that customers do not just sign the book part of the company that contracted his plan, he found me, said I was his assistant. Now the book has been planned passed, the money has been paid. I went to find that company, the company said that customers are not my people of their company, but his book some of the company contracted him for the planning, money the company and he had just cleared. know My situation, they expressed sympathy, but no way: now they can not find people, money is cleared.
the blow of the time I was mortal, so my situation worse. I've spent a lot of energy is not that the rest of the 7,000 original dollar I spent more than half had been, only 3,000 out. Even more frightening is my time and spent more than a month.
This is After the words: The client was a few years I have never seen this. Later I heard he had a very bad, many people are looking for him, he brought the partners to pit once, basically never heard of In this industry what it did.
11, discouraged
daunted by the situation, I told Yun, tell her when I clearly heard a beautiful bubble in her heart broken voices. her surface did not say anything, but I know she was extremely disappointed. we hugged speechless, I can only get a trace from her warmth and comfort here. She said, you do not worry,Prada Sunglasses, it does not matter, we start all over again. However, I love you You know, the blow or even let me go back look at yourself, doubt myself: I am such a northerner, is not suitable for hard work in Shanghai?
Although extremely lost and disappointed, but I can not let me down on my girl. The first Ah Yun for two days I Jiangdajingshen that I want to start again. I thought the night, because I have no money, can not rent the original house, and I must go to live in a private house, can save 7 to 800 per month yuan. But this can not and Yun, as before, from so near. I said I can not stop, time is running out. Yun crying, holding me, I must see her more, she would like to I am, I have come to her financial difficulties have to. I laughed and said,monster hats, you have financial difficulties have come to me ah.
friends, even though time has passed for so long, but today when I recall here still wept. At that time I have at the lowest point, survival is also a problem, but I was still willing to remember things. how could I think of the fate of the elderly after she and I will make big changes happen?
12, Chu Xing
I moved to a residence is a private ones, is that farmers built their own house, hot in summer and cold in winter inside the house, but only 10 cottage size. I've been very satisfied, where monthly rent before 200, than in the past 800 dollars I have saved the.
moved here, I have a very long period of time not knowing what to do. I think this is contained in a common problem people have fallen right, believed to have had a similar experience Friends will be shared. but do not do things my heart and anxiety. this contradiction every day I feel really are having a hard heart.
blink of an eye a month goes by, and this month I basically bread to pickle, lack of stomach oil is very powerful. I decided to buy some cooked meat greedy self. I have several around the new houses into the area, as distant from the urban areas, essentially to move some of the city households to be relocated here, really buy a house here and people are no money, but so many people in Shanghai, the district outside the popular good. It's not like 高价房, 高价房 is not open for a long time to see some signs of human habitation. between residential street, but mostly a lot of people some of the elderly and children in the cruise. cooked meat shop business if not very good, I want to buy some meat and a bottle of beer, a simple table in the shop next to sit down eat.
years later I remember that moment, or think that God is desperate for one of my opportunity. Just then, suddenly and deli owner was talking to say the boss, you business is not ah! is ah, that boss said, I busy next week, ready to go home, do not do. And the man said, how do you store it? The boss said, turn the chanting, the past six months did not make any money, might as well do something else. Suddenly I have a feeling of awakening, I began looking for making money, but the ambitious, the opportunity to ignore this side, can not you see he has been? I'll stand up to the boss to give me a little beef, and then casually asked him the case of the transfer of stores.
than ten minutes, I'll clear: this shop also 10 square feet, 1,200 monthly rent, the rent he was paying for two months. transfer fee he not ask for much, no loss on the line, with some simple facilities, 20,000 dollars, right. I said I would like to take over, but the price is too high, he dropped to 10,008. I said I am today to 10,005, and his wife discuss his return the following agreed . I immediately took my back to the room as the only remaining deposit to pay him 3,000 dollars, and then set an assignment that night, of course, he agreed to full payment within 7 days.