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135084 2010 年 02 月 03 日 02:00 Reading (loading. ..) Comments (0) Category: Personal Diary
people are born selfish desires and ownership
is the nature of human selfishness,
Office Cabin - Qzone log, everyone needs to survive as an individual, will be in the subconscious and instinctive desire for self-protection. However, the human individual as a social, survival and must work with others (or to establish a relationship with others,
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think of an interesting game of the classic story,
criminal conspiracy and two prisoners were arrested, locked up for trial in different locations. Two prisoners were told: If two people do not recognize the facts of the crime, then it will because of insufficient evidence, only two years in prison will be sentenced to 1; if one frankly, the other did not confess, then the guilty party to confess release, while the other received the death penalty; if two people to confess, then both sentenced to 5 years in prison.
the final test results, most of the choices made by the parties is frankly admitted facts of the crime, the last two 5-year prison per capita access to intermediate results.
this theory, called Show that the instinctive desire to maximize their own interests.
However, another way, of the story is different. If the prisoner is a conspiracy to 3, were individually isolated, if there is any one person to come clean,
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three prisoners one by one cycle of selection (the same as the brand caught playing mahjong), selection is done each time a prisoner will be informed the choice of two other people and do not know when it was only once the judge to terminate their choice, if the judge stopped, he would stop at 3 in accordance with the individual circumstances of the final choice of sentence.
this time will find that each person's choice is not exactly the same each time. Prisoner the most popular choice,
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First, the good Prisoner: When he learned that two other people last selected results, take the initiative to choose to cooperate and not the first betrayal, not by sacrificing for each other's interests to maximize their own interests; even know the other two Frankly personal choice, you may choose to resist, in exchange for the release of two other people;
Second, a prisoner of the mentality of revenge: the betrayal of the other party acts of retaliation, select a delivery man who was sentenced to the death penalty;
Third, the tolerance of the prisoner: not a betrayal of others, to the endless revenge, after the change as long as others cooperate, and he is co-operation.
society became the first and the third human basis for social cooperation, formed the mainstream of society, that is, the ownership of cooperative or individual prosecution,
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two conclusions:
1, loneliness is the absence of a sense of belonging
First of all, the selfish nature of people, so in order to satisfy their own interests, the nature of the co-operation will follow. In other words, the dependence of people is to meet people's selfishness, which is an instinctive desire, which may explain why people want a sense of belonging and hope to build relationships with others. And when there is a world can not be satisfied, loneliness will be generated.
no sense for many reasons, but the value of their own self-definition
2, the dignity of fact, when we work together with others to protect themselves
selfish nature of human decision can not line into pure altruism, with people also must have preventive measures to ensure their interests are not subject to too much influence. This precaution is supporting a sense of human dignity.
porcupine fable
porcupine are barbed like a pig an animal, they want to close with the cold winter to take advantage of another warm body temperature. When they separated too far, and found very satisfactory for heating, but get too close but hurt each other, hurt each other's body. Eventually they have to choose a right distance from the premise of the body without stinging maximum cooperation to maintain the effect.
description of this phenomenon is not only the relationship between people, but also some idea of what is human dignity.
sense of human dignity as porcupine quills, which in the middle of intimacy between people set up a psychological barrier to prevent the process along, or by others with injuries,
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who belong within the group, regardless of the group is close family or other group, each of us have a strong desire to maintain the dignity of their own, want to be respected, and have been allowed the dignity of damaged. Once deprived of human dignity,
You will not say I regret not Jiashui - Qzone log, just as prickly porcupine was pulled, he lost self-protection barrier and therefore can not continue to maintain cooperative relations with others, so groups often choose to use out of ways to protect themselves.
He will show
autism, severe cases will result in a denial with others, and even isolated himself in a closed space, not with any human contact. Fragile mind being criticized if female students, subject to greater self-esteem hit, she would instinctively to escape to their own quarters,
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, of course, there is no prickly the bottom line of a sense of dignity. Everyone asked, people must be outside the scope of the baseline and my cooperation, my bottom line if the temerity to invade within, it is too close to suffer as a porcupine, is a serious offense and provocation. Each of us nervous systems are inherently very sensitive to the dignity of the individual, often a subtle facial expression or words will attract attention, is suspected of harming self-esteem, and thus lead to emotional breakdown.
dignity, we also have a special instinct ─ ─ strange people jealous. Jealousy is the most unreasonable, most importune a psychological tendency, but we all have it, the difference lies in degree. Some people can use reason, the employer and other nature fight it, it showed weaker jealous, some people can not. Jealousy is mainly there to protect their sense of dignity, the dignity of others at the expense of a sense of the pressure. The goal is to unplug the other body that is too scratchy
the most common mental pursuit is: I want people to see my body covered with long sharp spines, although in order to maintain a relationship with others, I generally do not get one of these puncture However, when necessary, at any time bar people. We note that it is generally accepted to fame and fortune as a personal greatest primary goal to pursue. Pursuit of profit is to meet people's selfish nature, the pursuit of social status, pursuit of personal fame, I hope to succeed in the population, want to be other people's concern and attention, which in fact are designed to meet the sense of dignity. And this sense of dignity that belongs only in their own makes sense within the group, that is, we only want to belong to groups within the full dignity. By Chu King Xiang Yu's words, called If I do not belong in this group, or my heart already belongs to the group right now is not much sense of belonging, then I will see the dignity of their own is not so important. This is why many people are willing to behave in foreign land under long-term people, endure dirty looks and scold, but only to return home to enjoy a moment of honor, reason.
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