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(a) the growth of fable : always do a

grow an apple tree apple tree, and eventually the result.
the first year, which end up with 10 apples, 9 were taken away, they receive one. In reaction, angry apple trees, then slitting off, in corner,GHD IV Styling Set, refused to grow. The next year, it bears a five apples, 4 were taken away, they receive one.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For example, the second annual, it bears the 100 fruit, 90 were taken away, they receive 10.
is feasible,GHD Pink Limited Edition, it is taken away 99, they receive one. But no matter, it can continue to grow fruit the third year-end 1000 ... ...
fact, how much fruit is not the most important. The most important thing is the tree to grow! Such as apple trees grow into towering trees, those who have hindered its growth will be feeble to insignificant power. Really, do not fret so much about the fruit, the growth is the most important. Psychological Review】 【

you are not a meridian of the work has since broken kin?
started work, you gifted, high-spirited, I trust that But the reality presently hit a few of your Sap, perhaps, you made a great contribution for the element that no one seriously; maybe, but not only by verbal accent on affordable; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their own to enjoy only a small chapter, and falls far short of your expectations.
So, you are petulant, upset you, do you grumble ... ... In the end, you resolve not to work so hard, to do to match their own income. After the past few years, as you reflect on that now you have not just the work of enthusiasm and aptitude of the time.
But the elite is that you have stopped growing.
such stories abound approximately us.
why make such blunders, because we forget that life is a voyage, a whole, we calculate we have grown over, now is the time of the fruit. We too care about transient gains and losses, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of self-off passages. We stand prepared to give up doing so, continue to move toward growth path.
Remember: If you are a working group, met do not comprehend management, management or error treatment brutal boss or corporate civilization, then, to caution ourselves about, do not disgruntled because of the anger and the self-off passages. No matter what, have to do an apple tree will not grow because you always grow important than how much money each month.

(b) the motivation of the parable: the child in whom a group of children playing

frolic in front of an elderly, sounds a magnificent handle. Over the quondam few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: merry, the next daytime is still coming, as all, playfulness. Come out to the elderly and gave each child 15 cents. He annotated that he had no earnings, merely a small to some. It also can be 15 cents, kid are still happily away.
the third day, the old male gave only 5 cents for each child.
children with wrath, Psychological Review】 【

whom you .
two types of human motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. If the internal motivation to doing in consensus with, we are mains of their own. If we are driven along external motivation, we will be swayed by external factors to become enslaved at it.
In this story, the calculation is simple as the elderly, who will the children's interior motivation elements, so it operated the children's action. Fables of the aged, a lot like your boss, foreman? And pence, favor not favor your wages, bonuses and other kinds of outer rewards?
for a reference, such as coordinates of the external evaluation, our sentiments can accessible fluctuate. Because we can not control external factors, it is cozy to deflect from our internal expectations, let us dissatisfied, let us complaint. Gripe and let negate feelings such as pain, in order to depress the pain, we had to dilute the internal expectations, the maximum general usage is to depress the work effort.
A person can form an external evaluation system, the most important reason is that parents like to control him. Parents too rather to use verbal rewards and punishments, substance stimuli and other control children, not to bypass the child's own motivation. Over time, the children have forgotten their aboriginal motives, what are the external evaluation of care. School, he has forgotten the original motivation for knowledge --- curiosity and delight of learning; work, he forgot the aboriginal motivation of the work --- the joy of growth, the evaluation of superiors and income fluctuations into his work the largest source of pleasure and pain.
Remember: the external evaluation system is constantly a family history, but you can break it, from now on cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to learn and work into a

(c) Planning fable: a chip of paper folded 51 times

Imagine your hands are a big enough white. Now, your mission is to fold it 51 times. So, How high?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a high building so high? No, a big change, the thickness more than the distance among Earth and the Sun. Psychological Review】 【


to now, I get queried a dozen people in this fable, only two people said that this may be an unimaginable height, meantime others think of the height of the highest That is a tall skyscraper.
folded height of 51 such terror, but if not the 51 white paper stacked together?
This compare made many people feel shocked. Because there is no intention, lack of planning in life, like the 51 White simple stacked. Doing this today, tomorrow tiny morsel of that, each time there is no link between efforts. In this way, even if each work is done very well, they have your whole life is nought but a simple superposition.
, of lesson, life is more complicated than this fable. Some people, life finds a simple direction and firmly to do so, they reached the other end of life unattainable elevation. For example, I have a friend for your life is English, he spent more than a ten-year efforts, only the memories of the word reached the value of ten million and more, by this point to approach the average person can not match the height.
some people, and their direction in life is also very clear, case in point,GHD Green Straighteners, to start a company boss, so they absence a lot of capabilities --- skills, management skills, communication skills, decision-making skills and so on. They may attempt doing this in the opening, and attempt doing that, nobody is especially adept, but in the end, open the company boss in the direction of these seemingly scattered the previous integration efforts together, which is a kinds of intricate folding in life, rather than simply additive.
Remember: the power of sight more profitable than the hidden forces.
Now, the popular place to find the answer from the unseen, such as the potential development, such as Success, that we rely on some marvel of life can be saved. However, in my opinion, Counseling Center, Dongguan Heng Yuan consultant Mao Zhengjiang more correctly, avoid the fables: cat escape the shadow of the tricks

, Tom and Toby found, as long as the sun appeared, they will see that they are outrageous for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby finally have found their own solutions. Tom is always close their eyes. Approach is to Toby, always reside in the shadows of other things.

【Comments】
mental note of this fable, a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that entire psychological problems are derived from the perversion of the facts. What facts? We mainly those suffering negative accidents.
because of the pain experience, we do not want to face the negative events. However, once occurred, negative memorabilia that is predestined to be with us for life, we can do them up but is restrained into the subconscious to go, this is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to play a role. And, even if we have forgotten the fact that powerful another, the pain associated with these facts would still aggression us, let us somehow sorrowful, and can not be quelled. This pain Let us beyond effort to escape.
development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either, as we like the cat Tom and completely misrepresenting their experience of life in all the important facts are ignored negative; or, we, like cat care than as, simply connect their anguish, his own everything were very bad, since everything is so bad, that make their most sad event is not so original pain.
smokes mental hospital consultant, said Li Ling, 99% of narcotic users had a bitter experience. The reason they did drugs to make themselves to flee the ache. It's like conceal in the shadows, bitter truth is a devil, the devil in order to shirk this, simply to sell itself to a greater demon. There are many alcoholism
adults, they have had an drunkard and abusive father, dad survive a lot of torture. To forget the pain, they learn the same way. In counting to these apparent
wrong way, we humans have invented a myriad of a great many ways to escape suffering, Freud referred to these methods of psychological defense mechanisms. Too painful, these ward mechanisms is required, but aggravate, if the distortion of the facts of psychological defense machinery is so intense, it will take a more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social misgiving disorder, multiple individuality, or even schizophrenia.
really only one way to reach a healthy --- face the pain. Facing the pain would get a lot from the pain of abrupt gains, they will eventually become the life of the celebration of wealth.
Remember: shadow and light, as are the wealth of life.
one of the most important psychological decree is, no matter how painful, you are no escape. You can only go gallant face it and resolve it, beyond it, and it finally reached a accommodation. If you own a temporary deficit of power, you can find help, find friends and relatives for help, or quest professional help, accompany you believe with you to face the pain.
Rogers, American psychologist, was the most lonely person, but when he resolved to face this fact and later he became a true main of interpersonal relationships; American psychologist Frank has a wild and alcoholic stepfather and a wrong mom, but when he challenges the fact and, afterward, from the heart to forgive his parents, he became an adept in this area management; Japanese psychologist Morita horse was being solemn neurological disarray, but he challenges the fact and through Morita therapy eventually contrived the ... ... their most painful fact of life eventually became their most important funds. You can do the same.

(e) action fable --- crabs, owls and bats

crabs, owls and bats to cram on the accustomed. Few years later, they graduate and get a doctorate. However, the crab is still rampant, owls slumber during the day and evening activities are still the cmd still hung upside down. Psychological Review】 【


This is even notable master of a fable, and its definition is simple: operation more important than knowledge.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
called mysterious knowledge of psychology. However, the more even the best knowledge of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know some people who had studied psychology for many years, they learn one of the intentions of psychology is to rule themselves, but after so many years of school, their problems remain.
reason why this happens, a quite important reason is, they do not personally, just far away as the knowledge of learning, knowledge, and not into their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, has been considered fewer sensitive than those of psychology, not suitable for Psychology. But the fact is that assumption is not correct. He is not sensitive enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge immediately in their own lives to do it. As a result, the knowledge that becomes a far real life experience, he does not
If we say namely the quality of high sensitivity is a talent, then the power is more essential Gao genius quality.
this fable can come out of another meaning: Do not expect too many the sorcery of the mysterious psychological treatment. Always the most important coerce in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the latent evolution of weird, dazzling success and so along, are far lesser to the power of your own body has been important. We accustom to go appearance to ascertain the reply to something else looking for strength, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically save you.
punch if some renju touched you, if some text or a fashionable creed influenced you. So, these other people's words and experience are just a start, more importantly, a good knowledge you think you really use in your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have always considered the most important:
you have to start their own. If you do not love to go deep in a assured life, if you do not own way to reveal the averaging of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain insignificant.

(VI) to give the Fables:

bees and flowers shriveled roses, the bees are still hard suck, because it takes ahead sucking off from this little sweet. But now in this little to cost, the bees suck the venom.
bees understand this, because the venom bitter savor is the big inconsistency with the previous. Thus, bees inflame, although, breathe above it the whole globe looked up to complain about, why the taste changed? !
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating wings, flying a bit high. At this time, it found, withered roses around the flowers everywhere. Psychological Review】 【


This is the fable approximately adore, is a young language preceptor of the true sentiment.
some time, she was falling out of love, painful, and always wanted to talk about me, I hope I can give her some knowledge of psychology help. We have some time, but almost two months later, the total time they can not occur to get together.
the last time about her, she said: The pain of lost love is still plagued her, let her trance, incapable to enjoy the beauty of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she noticed a little on the honey bee is a flower. That moment, her mind like thunder and speedy appeared in one sentence: was such a foolish, she's the bees in this sentence refers to her own course. That moment, she had to give up the truth out of insight. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact, the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
give up is not easy to give up love, particularly painful. Because, love is when our young copy of parent-child relationship. Small children, no matter from which side, parents can not do without. If a complete refusal of his father and mother, and that means death for him, this is the ultimate damage and panic. We have seasoned all but been denied parents the pain and fear, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once again we experience the pain and fear, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, compared to love and parent-child relationship, there is a huge difference: a child, nothing we can do, all parents have the final say; But now we grow up, we have the power to select their own fate. It can be said, a child,GHD Leopard Grain, we do not have wings bee, but now we have a pair of powerful wings.
However, when deeply in love, we will return to infancy, we forget that they have a pair of wings to fly. When we realize that, after their love is no longer automatically copy parent-child relationship, our love was free, there is a give up power.
Remember: Love is two things, two completely equal, neutral and people self-respect object. You tin work, but not that hard for you there will be results, because variant human, you tin not determine.
So, no material how many you care about the time love, if another person determined to quit you, please respect his alternative.
And also memorize, you are not longer a child, are left with the pain of torment. You have grown up, you have a pair of powerful wings, you can fly out of a relationship has convert poison.

(g) close to the fable: the unique Rose

Little Prince has a small planet, the planet suddenly blooming flower blooming roses. Previously,GHD Purple Gift Set, only some nameless on this planet the flowers, the little prince had never discerned such smart flowers, he fell in love with this rose, cautiously nurtured her.
those days, he thought, this is a unique flower on world, only his only planet, other places do not exist.
, however, so he came to Earth and base that there is a garden just the same as 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he only have an ordinary flower.
the starting, this finding, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, though there are many roses in the world, but his planet tis is still matchless because that rose, he had water, cover flowers to cover her with a shade protection over , in addition to her body caterpillars, but also to listen to her grumbled, or boasted, listening to quiet her ... ... a word, and he tamed her,GHD Hair Straightener NZ, and she tamed him, she is his matchless roses.
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This is a French classic
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: But immediately we empty the increasingly fashionable We are impatient to have
. Seems that each has had a rose, the worth of their own lives to Duoliaoyifen. Internet old, with several ten lover, is no longer a infrequent thing too. But I know who these random, no one is blank. They do not enjoy the relationship, they equitable enjoy the conquest.
But once owned, they will rapidly lose amuse in this intimate relationship. the stronger the lust to conquer, the faster the rate of wastage. attractive.
However, the relationship between the United States, about two inputs is the amplitude and degree to be tamed. When two people are surely going into, indeed, be tamed, the relationship will become a life nourishment, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
However, no matter how close. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still a rose, they are still two individuals. Rose not to peregrination if the little prince, little prince or non-travel the roses with me, they have to mallet together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: either a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than a thousand general. This relationship will bring us the sense of loneliness from the hopeless rescue is the most important in our lives a kind of salvation.
If you have not experienced, you can not know the prettiness of this relationship.


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