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(a) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will never do a -
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an apple tree, and finally the result. -
the premier year, which bring an end to ... with 10 apples, 9 were taken away, they receive one. In response, angry apple trees, then slitting off, in turn, refused to grow. The next year, it bears a 5 apples, four were taken away, they receive one. -
However, it can do: continue to grow. For sample, the second year, it bears the 100 fruit, 90 were taken away, they receive 10. -
is possible, it is taken away 99, they receive one. But no matter, it can continue to grow fruit the third year-end 1000 ... ... -
fact, how much fruit is not the most important. The most important thing is the tree to grow! Such as apple trees grow into towering trees, those who have hindered its growth will be weak to negligible power. Really, do not anxiety so many about the fruit, the growth is the most important. -
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you are not a has been broken since the meridians of the migrant laborers? -
started work, you talented, high-spirited, I deem that But the reality soon hit a few of your Sap, perhaps, you made a excellent contribution for the unit that no one seriously; perhaps, but not only along verbal emphasis on affordable; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their own to enjoy only a small chapter, and falls distant short of your expectations. -
So, you are angry, upset you, do you grumble ... ... In the end, you decide not to work so hard, to do to match their own earnings. After the quondam few annuals, as you reflect on that now you have not just the work of enthusiasm and talent of the time. -
But the marrow is that you have stopped growing. -
such stories abound around us. -
why make such errors, because we forget that life is a voyage, a whole, we think we have grown over, now is the time of the fruit. We too care about temporary gains and losses, and forget the growth is the most important. -
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of self-off passages. We stand prepared to give up doing so, continue to push toward growth way. -
Remember: If you are a working group,Supra Skytop III Shoes, met do not understand management, management or error management brutal boss or corporate culture, then, to remind ourselves about, do not disgruntled because of the anger and the self-off passages. No matter what, have to do an apple tree will never grow because you always grow important than how much money each month. -
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(b) the motives of the parable: the child in whom play -
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group of children frolicking in front of an elderly, sounds a great handle. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable. -
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them:
children cheerful, the next daytime is still coming, as forever, playfulness. Come out to the elderly and gave every child 15 cents. He explained that he had no income, only a small to some. It also can be 15 cents, children are still happily away. -
the third day, the old man gave only 5 cents for each child. -
children with tantrum, -
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apple story fable is deeper answer: Why do apple trees from the off, in rotate, for it is not for myself -
two types of human motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. If the internal motivation to deed in agreement with, we are masters of their own. If we are driven by external motivation, we will be swung by external factors to become enslaved by it. -
In this fable, the calculation is simple for the aged, who ambition the children's inner motivation factors, so it operated the children's action. Fables of the elderly, a lot like your boss, boss? And pence, like not like your wages, bonuses and additional kinds of outer rewards? -
such as the external appraisal as a reference border, our feelings can lightly fluctuate. Because we can not control external factors, it is cozy to deviate from our internal expectations, let us dissatisfied, let us complaint. Gripe and let negative emotions such as pain, in array to decrease the pain, we had to dwindle the internal expectations, the most general usage is to decrease the work effort. -
A person can form an external evaluation system, the most important reason is that parents like to control him. Parents too prefer to use verbal rewards and disciplines, material stimuli and other control babies, not to bypass the child's own motivation. Over time, the children have forgotten their original motives, what are the external evaluation of care. School, he has forgotten the original motivation for studying --- curiosity and delight of learning; work, he forgot the original motivation of the work --- the joy of growth, the evaluation of superiors and income fluctuations into his work the largest source of pleasure and pain. -
Remember: the external evaluation system is often a family history, but you can wreck it, by and by cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to learn and work into a -
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(c) Planning fable: a piece of paper folded 51 times -
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Imagine your hands are a big enough white. Now, your task is to fold it 51 times. So, How high? -
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so high? No, a big change, the thickness more than the distance between Earth and the Sun. -
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to now, I get queried a dozen people in this fable, only 2 people said that this may be an unimaginable altitude, while others consider that is a highest elevation of skyscrapers as tall. -
folded height of 51 such terror, but if I were you the 51 pearly paper stacked together? -
This contrast made many people feel shocked. Because there is no direction, lack of intending in life, like the 51 White simple stacked. Doing this today, tomorrow little bit of that, each time there is no link between efforts. In this way, even now each work is done very well, they have your whole life is naught but a simple superposition. -
, of course, life is more complicated than this fable. Some people, life finds a simple direction and firmly to do so, they reached the other end of life unattainable height. For example, I have a friend for your life is English, he spent more than a decade efforts, only the memories of the word reached the amount of ten million and more, by this point to reach the mean person can not match the height. -
some people, and their direction in life namely also very clear, case in point, apt begin a enterprise boss, so they need a lot of capabilities --- skills, treatment capabilities, communication skills, decision-making skills and so above. They may try doing this in the beginning, and try doing that, none namely particularly adept, but in the end, open the enterprise boss in the intention of these seemingly spread the previous integration exertions together, which is a varieties of complex folding in life, prefer than simply additive. -
Remember: the power of sight more profitable than the hidden forces. -
Now, the popular place to find the reply from the unseen, such as the latent development, such as Success, that we depend on some miracle of life can be saved. However, in my attitude, Counseling Center, Dongguan Heng Yuan consultant Mao Zhengjiang more correctly,
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(d) to avoid the fables: cat escape the shadow of cheats -
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However, wherever you go, Tom and Toby found that, at a time the sun seemed, they will discern that they are crazy for their own shadow. -
However, Tom and Toby finally have found their own solutions. Tom is always close their eyes. Approach is to Toby, always reside in the shadows of other things. -
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This fable shows that a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems. -
can say that all psychological problems are derived from the perversion of the facts. What facts? We chiefly those anguish negative events. -
because of the pain experience, we do not ambition to face the negative events. However, once happened, negative events that is preordained to be with us for life, we can do them up but is restrained into the subconscious to go, this is the so-called forgotten. -
However, their subconscious will still continue to play a role. And, even now we have forgotten the fact that powerful again, the pain associated with these facts would still bombard us, let us somehow sad, and can not be inhibited. This pain Let us further effort to escape. -
development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: both, for we like the cat Tom and completely twisting their experience of life in always the essential facts are ignored negate; or, we, like feline attention than for, simply combine their suffering, his own anything were very bad, since anything is so wrong, that make their maximum sad accident is not so aboriginal afflict. -
smokes mental hospital adviser, said Li Ling, 99% of drug consumers had a painful experience. The reason they did drugs to make themselves to escape the pain. It's like conceal in the shadows, painful truth is a demon,Supra Skytop II Shoes, the monster in order to shirk this, simply to sell itself to a greater devil. -
There are many alcoholism
adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive father, father survive a lot of torment. To forget the pain, they learn the same way. -
In addition to these apparent
erroneous way, we humans have invented a heap of all kinds of ways to escape suffering, Freud referred to these methods of psychological ward mechanisms. Too painful,Supra Bullet Shoes, these barricade mechanisms is essential, but worse, if the distortion of the facts of psychological ward machinery is so intense, it will take a more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social misgiving disorder, multiple personality, or even schizophrenia. -
really only one way to reach a healthy --- face the pain. Facing the pain would get a lot from the pain of abrupt gains, they will eventually become the life of the gathering of wealth. -
Remember: shadow and light, as are the wealth of life. -
one of the most important psychological decree is, no matter how painful, you are no run. You can only go gallant face it and resolve it, beyond it, and it eventually reached a accommodation. If you own a temporary deficit of power, you can find assist, ascertain friends and relatives for aid, or quest vocational aid, companion you trust with you to face the pain. -
Rogers, American psychologist, was the most solitary person, but when he decided to face this fact and after he became a true master of interpersonal relationships; American psychologist Frank has a savage and drunkard stepfather and a bad mother, but when he challenges the fact and, ultimately, from the heart to excuse his parents, he became an expert in this district handling; Japanese psychologist Morita horse was being serious neurological disorder, but he challenges the fact and via Morita treatment eventually contrived the ... ... their most bitter fact of life eventually became their most important wealth. You can do the same. -
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(e) behavior fable --- crabs, owls and bats -
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crabs, owls and bats to cram on the habit. Few years after, they graduate and obtain a doctorate. However, the crab is still rampant, owls sleep during the day and nightfall activities are still the bat still hung upside down. -
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It is even prominent master
a fable, it's signification is simple: action more important than knowledge. -
accustomed in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking. -
cried profound knowledge of psychology. However, the more even the best knowledge of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know some people who had studied psychology for many years, they learn one of the intentions of psychology is to rule themselves, but after so many years of school, their problems remain. -
reason why this happens, a very important reason is, they do not personally, just far away as the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge, and not into their own life experience. -
one of my friends like psychology, has been considered less sensitive than those of psychology, not appropriate for Psychology. But the fact is that assumption is not correct. He is not sensitive enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge quickly in their own lives to do it. As a result, the knowledge that becomes a far real life experience, he does not -
If we mention that the quality of high sensitivity is a genius, then the power is more important Gao talent quality. -
this fable can bring an end to ... of another meaning: Do not anticipate too much the magic of the weird psychological treatment. Always the most important coerce in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the potential development of weird, dazzling success and so ahead, are far lesser to the power of your own body has been important. We used to go appearance to find the answer to something else looking for strength, the results have forgotten the power in themselves. -
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically retention you. -
Lianzhu punch line if some hits you, if some text or a current creed inspired you. So, these other people's words and experience are just a start, more importantly, a good knowledge you think you really use in your own life to go. -
Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words,Supra Shoes, I have always thought the most important: -
you'll must start. If you do not love to go deep in a affirmative life, if you do not own direction to reveal the meaning of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain meaningless. -
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(VI) to give the Fables: bees and flowers -
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withered roses, the bees are still hard suck, because it takes ahead sucking off from this little sweet. But now in this little to cost, the bees suck the venom. -
bees know this, because the venom painful savor is the big distinction with the previous. Thus, bees rage, however, exhale on it the whole globe looked up to complain about, why the savor changed? ! -
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating wings, flying a morsel high. At this time, it found, withered roses approximately the flowers everywhere. -
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This is the fable almost love, is a young language educator of the true emotion. -
some time, she was falling out of love, painful, and always wanted to speak about me, I wish I can give her some knowledge of psychology help. We have some time, but almost two months later, the absolute time they can not occur to get together. -
the final time about her, she said:
She had just returned from Jiuzhaigou behind. The pain of lost love is still plagued her, let her trance, incapable to enjoy the beauty of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she placarded a little on the honey bee is a flower. That moment, her mind like thunder and speedy appeared in one sentence:
course, the nature of small bees will not do, only male was ignorant, and she of course the bees in this sentence refers to herself. That moment, she had to give up the truth out of insight. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact, the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly. -
give up is not easy to give up love, primarily painful. Because, love is when our young copy of parent-child relationship. Small children, no matter from which side, parents can not do without. If a complete disapproval of his dad and mother, and that method decease for him, this is the final damage and panic. We have experienced just about been denied parents the pain and terror, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once repeatedly we experience the pain and fear, our emotions can easily become very bad. -
However, likened to love and parent-child relationship, there is a huge difference: a child, nothing we can do, all parents have the ultimate say; But now we grow up, we have the power to prefer their own destiny. It can be said, a child, we do not have wings bee, but now we have a pair of powerful wings. -
However, when profoundly in love, we will return to childhood, we forget that they have a pair of wings to fly. When we fulfil that, after their love is no longer automatically copy parent-child relationship, our love was free, there is a give up power. -
Remember: Love is two things, two completely equal, neutral and human dignity entity. You can work, but not that hard for you there will be results, because distinct person, you can not determine. -
So, no matter how many you care about the time love, if another person resolute to depart you, please respect his alternative. -
And also remember,Supra Skylow Shoes, you are no longer a child, are left with the pain of torture. You have grown up, you have a pair of powerful wings, you can fly out of a relationship has become poison. -
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(g) close to the fable: the distinctive Rose -
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Little Prince has a small planet, the planet suddenly blooming flower blooming roses. Previously, only some unknown on this planet the flowers, the little prince had never seen such beautiful flowers, he fell in love with this rose, carefully nurtured her. -
those days, he thought, this is a unique flower on world, only his only planet, other places do not exist. -
, whatsoever, so he came to Earth and base that there is a garden fair the same as 5000 of this flower. At this period, he knows that he merely have one mediocre flower. -
the opening, this discovery, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to know, nevertheless there are many roses in the world, but his planet tis is still unique because that rose, he had water, cover flowers to cover her with a screen protection over , in addition to her body caterpillars, but also to hear to her grumbled, or boasted, listening to calm her ... ... a word, and he tamed her, and she tamed him, she is his unique roses. -
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This is a French classic -
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said:
only devoted adore, intimacy can be significant. But immediately we blank the increasingly renowned -
We are impatient to have
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But once owned, they will immediately lose interest in this intimate relationship. the stronger the desire to vanquish, the faster the rate of wastage.
For such people, a rose garden roses than a unique and more attractive. -
However, the relationship among the United States, virtually two inputs is the extent and degree to be tamed. When two people are indeed going into, naturally, be tamed, the relationship will become a life nourishment, so that a person's life becomes more filling and extra beautiful. -
However, no matter how close. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still a rose, they are still two individuals. Rose not to peregrination if the little prince, little prince or non-travel the roses with me, they must mallet together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden. -
Remember: both a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than a thousand common. This relationship will send us the sense of loneliness from the hopeless salvage is the most important in our lives a kind of salvation. -
If you have not seasoned, you can not know the prettiness of this relationship. -